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Emotional manipulation is how others try to influence your behavior, thoughts, and feelings through misleading actions, words, and subconcious, as well as conscious behaviors. These practices can be harmful to everyone involved, inlacing the person who is exhibiting the manipulative behavior. When working with the environment and landscape of the home, our practice incorporates naturopathic family health into our Integrative family wellness center. Naturopathic family health includes and examines the actions of the family members and how that supports the whole. 

Family members may try to use emotional manipulation to control you. Especially if you are setting a boundary that they do not like. Many times, people become accustom to you not valuing yourself, not honoring yourself, and not knowing your worth. Quite simply we teach people how to treat us. These people, regardless if they are family or not grow accustom to our lack of self love, healthy boundaries, and trauma responses. Naturopathic family health looks to establish healthy boundaries as well as healthy communication amongst family members. At our integrative family wellness center, we work to address the underlying causes of these trauma responses, loss of boundaries, and unhealthy behavior so that each family member is feels heard and honored. 

No one likes to be controlled, manipulated, abused, or gas lighted. These behaviors especially when done to children can create suppression in self esteem. For your own benefit and awareness the following are signs we teach at our integrative family wellness center so that you can be conscious and aware of manipulative behavior. As we teach our families naturopathic family health, they begin to understand how their behaviors impact the whole.

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Denial of the truth. One of the most common ways an emotional manipulator can use emotional manipulation is to deny the truth. This is a key sign. Often referred to as gaslighting. This is when you hold someone accountable to some behavior and they pretend as though you are making it up, you are crazy, etc. This can create deep levels of frustration, resentment, and acting out of the person on the receiving end of this type of abuse. 

Using guilt. Emotional manipulators frequently use guilt to control their family. This is beyond a playful “guilt trip” where it is obvious the person is not serious but rather using a sad face when you don’t do what they ask but quickly move on. This is a persistent pressure and emotional guilt trip with the intent of shifting behavior into what the desired outcome would be for them. 


Using others. Emotional manipulators will use your friends and other family members to hurt you. They can try to turn friends, and family against you. They are capable of bullying you into doing what they want, or trying to paint you out in a negative light. They are hoping that if others view you in a negative manner, then they will side with them, isolating you. 

Anger and threats. Family members can use their anger and threats to manipulate you. They can also use passive aggressive tactics such as subtle micro aggressions or acts of anger. It is important not to succumb to pressure or unhealthy behaviors. Remove yourself immediately if things escalate. Sadly, these situations rarely get better they only get worse. In our integrative family wellness center we have seen,

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The anger can escalate to physical violence, so it’s important to pay close attention to the situation and seek help if necessary. If there is violence, it is important to reach out for help. Our integrative family wellness center is a safe place, where we can help you find resources to help. 

Focusing on vulnerable targets. Manipulators seek out sensitive people because it’s easier to influence them. They deliberately look for people who are vulnerable and insecure. They can spot your insecurities and use them. These can also be people who are deeply empathetic as well. Deeply empathetic people such as healers can often attract those who are in need of healing. At our integrative family wellness center, we teach skills and tools for healers to not create relationships with people who are going to be emotionally as well as energetically draining to them.

You can recognize emotional manipulation and refuse to let the family member take control of you or your actions. These relationships are unhealthy and toxic. Seek professional help if you need to, but it’s important to make positive changes to the relationship or let the relationship go. We are here to help you at our integrative family wellness center to create naturopathic family health. We are just a phone call away don’t fall victim to emotional manipulation.